
The following article was written at the request of Guider Magazine by Joshua Feltham, the General Manager of Reptilia Inc. It appeared in the Fall 2001 Issue of Guider.
"Sugar
and spice and everything nice, ," remember that old nursery rhyme?
Obviously whoever wrote it was never a Girl Cuide! A Girl Guide is just as
likely to identity with "snakes and snails and puppy dog tails." She's
the kind of girl who would happily pick up a snake or a frog, because Guiding
gives her opportunities to try things that are traditionally considered
"for boys." And the effect on girls of coming into contact with these
amazing creatures can he pretty amazing stuff.
Reptilia –
Not Just for Boys
Live
reptiles. Wow, that must be a great place for boys!" This is invariably one
of the first things I hear when I tell people about Reptilia and its programs. I
don't deny it. It's true. Reptilia is a great place for boys. But it's also a
great place for girls! Unfortunately, the attitude that reptiles such as
lizards, turtles, tortoises, and especially snakes are a "boy thing"
is still the norm. Often, so is the notion that girls aren't interested in
amphibians, such as frogs. Girls are supposed to be afraid of snakes and to
think that frogs are slimy. The "socially accepted" feminine reaction
to reptiles and amphibians in general is to regard them with disgust and
revulsion.
During
my three years managing Reptilia Inc., a centre that educates people about
reptiles and amphibians, there have been tens of thousands of people through our
facility. The best part of my job is teaching people about reptiles and watching
their perception of these misunderstood animals change right before my eyes,
especially their perception of snakes. I've instructed many of these groups, and
the effect that learning about snakes has on many of the girls visiting is truly
rewarding to see. I've seen girls quickly overcome their fear or snakes. I've
also seen girls become fascinated by frogs. I've seen shy, quiet girls become
confident, vocal members of their group. I've seen all this happen, because they
were able to experience something exciting and new by getting close to the
things they're often programmed to fear or dislike. In overcoming their fear,
they begin to develop new confidence and life skills. That's why their Guiders
bring them to places such as Reptilia.
Snake
Therapy – A Radical New Confidence Builder!
Although
Girl Guides are usually exposed to the outdoors and nature as part of their
activities, I find a great many of them are not at all comfortable around
snakes. These girls can be quickly identified shortly after they arrive, even
those who are good at hiding their emotions. When a group arrives at Reptilia,
we take them to our classroom, which has four rows of chairs, the last of
which is elevated to give those who sit there an unobstructed view of our
viewing area. However, those who frequent this row are generally not sitting
there to get a better view. They're there to put maximum space between themselves
and the elongated, unblinking, fork-tongued, limbless snakes at the front of
the room. Reptilia staff members affectionately refer to this row as the
"cringe row." Those who initially settle in the cringe row do so to be
overlooked. But they quickly discover that we make it a point to bring all
the animals around to everyone in the room.
It
takes courage to overcome any fear. However, understanding that fear can be
conquered is an important life skill for the girls to learn. Many who are afraid
of snakes fit a certain profile. They sit quietly in the cringe row, avoiding
eye contact, trying not to look interested, and asking few questions. The
primary reason for this is that they don't want to be singled out in front of
their peers. After they've become a little more comfortable, they begin to show
some interest and ask a few questions. One of my favourite moments is when these
girls are ready to touch a snake, because it always feels different than they
expect. The expression of disgust and fright turns to one of amazement and surprise.
This is the turning point. After touching a snake, and being congratulated for
doing so, the girls become visibly more confident.
This
may seem like an insignificant accomplishment to many people, but think about it
for a moment. Think about something you were once afraid of doing. Think about
what it took for you to overcome that fear. Think about how you felt when you
were able to say you were no longer afraid. These experiences are critical to
our development of life skills. We all need to learn that we are capable of
overcoming obstacles and of making changes in our perception of things. Many of
the Guiding Members who come to Reptilia with a fear of snakes leave with a
sense of accomplishment and pride. It's an empowering experience. They have
learned a little more about what they are capable of achieving, if they put
their minds to it.
Shy
Girls Speak Out
Having
been a boy scout, I know that a large part of the Scouting ethic is to respect
and understand nature. The boys I was with in Scouting typically enjoyed
the outdoors. The same is true of Guiding. There are many girls out
there who are fascinated by nature, and plenty of them are interested in
reptiles and amphibians. However, these are often the girls who are
reluctant to speak out. One of the reasons for this is that girls are
still taught that their place is not out in the fields and forests looking for
insects and reptiles or catching frogs. Girls who enjoy these activities are usually
not part of the in-crowd. They need to know that they are valuable members of
any group, and they need to be encouraged to pursue their interests. The field
of biology is still a male dominated field, and women are needed to provide
their talents and perspectives. We need more girls to develop skills in
this area.
I've
noticed that, during a lesson, the more introverted members of the group tend to
become more involved. I like to ask a lot of questions during my presentations.
It keeps everyone on track, which helps to establish a good relationship
between us. The quieter members of the audience often provide the answers,
becoming more vocal as they answer more questions. As this happens, I
often see the more extroverted girls change their perception of the quiet,
introverted, nature lovers. This is most apparent after the presentation
is complete and the girls are looking at some of the animals we have on display.
I see the more introverted girls being asked questions by the others. The
shy, quiet girl has spoken out. She is developing new communication skills
and her self-esteem and self-confidence are greatly increased, because she no
longer feels marginalized. Now she has something to offer the other girls.
I have seen countless girls leave Reptilia with a renewed and keener interest in nature and biology. Some have confronted their fears about reptiles and amphibians and gained self-confidence in the process. Others have learned a new respect for creatures they’ve either dreaded or found uninteresting. And others have learned that their natural affinity for those “snakes and snails” (and lizards, frogs, turtles, alligators…) traditionally associated with boys is something other girls will notice, applaud and respect.